My journey started with an insult followed by failures, rejections, criticisms and countless sleepless nights.
I had no godfather. I started everything from scratch, the field which I stepped in, I didn't know shit about it, I was new in the field and knew nobody who could help me. There were times when I was at my lowest when I was about to give up when my family members doubted me. I had no proper direction nor resources. I was booed, I failed a lot, I made 100s of mistakes, but I didn't stop. I went on and on. I didn't complain; I didn't blame, I faced each hurdle with an open chest, accepted my responsibilities, accounted for my failures, used the resources I had effectively, and here I am where I am today. So, if I can start from scratch with limited resources and be where I am today, you could too.
SO STOP FUCKING COMPLAINING
My life was very different before the insult took place, and it changed my life for good. The insult ignited a fire somewhere inside me. I initially wanted to learn not for myself, not to grow, but for pure revenge. I wanted to prove him wrong, and I didn’t realize that just by proving him wrong, I would be proving myself right. Somewhere along the way, I created a successful platform for myself. BTW
IT TOOK ME NINE FREAKING YEARS TO GET MY OVERNIGHT SUCCESS.
I divided my story in four parts (i.e.)
MY LIFE PRIOR THE INSULT.
MY LIFE POST THE INSULT.
MY LIFE RIGHT NOW.
My life was going fine before the insult. I was having the most peaceful time of my life. I was a topper in my school; I used to receive fantastic grades. I was a teacher's and my family's favorite. I used to play sometimes and spend my whole day by either completing my assignments/reading or by watching Disney and Pogo channel. Life was beautiful, I was programmed to live a normal life, and at that moment, I actually loved it. I will brief you with some points so that you understand MY LIFE PRIOR THE INSULT well.
ONE SIMPLE INSULT FROM A FRIEND OF MINE WHICH FLIPPED MY WORLD UPSIDE DOWN
The insult took place in 2011 when I was just 11 years old and was studying in sixth grade.
Things were good, and I loved the way it was, I never complained because that's the life I chose and I was happy.
It was just like any other day, I was getting ready for school, everything was good. The first period was history and I still love that subject, I don't know why people get bored of it. Anyway, the second period was free as the teacher was absent and me being a complete nerd, opened my books and started reading because all my homework was complete, yeah, I know.
My friends were forming groups and gossiping on various stuff. A friend of mine invited me to the group and I was reluctant initially because he was the only guy amidst all the girls in the group and I was very shy, but later on, I accepted and we were having conversations on Politics, Bollywood, Sports, on almost everything . It was going pretty well until the topic of computers came which changed my whole freaking life.
Out of nowhere, my friend in the group started talking about computers and began boasting about how he is a great hacker and was making huge money from hacking accounts. He started saying about how he hacked a girl's account and how she pleaded him to get the account back. Being the naive sixth graders that we were, we bought his story and were in complete awe of it.
I was very weak in computers, I knew no shit, I didn't even know how to download an application from PlayStore, I was that low. I remember once when my father bought a new Tablet home and I thought I am a tech wizard when I connected it to Wi-Fi. I know, I was fool back then. I still am a fool (sometimes).
He then went on to exploit my weakness in computers and threatened to hack my Facebook account and send some lewd messages to girls. Eleven year old me was rattled with fear, and all others started clapping and giggling at my misery.
(Yes, I did have a Facebook account which was created with the help of my friend.)
I cried, begged, pleaded him not to hack my account but he was in no mood to listen as he was getting all the attention he wanted.
I couldn't concentrate on anything else. I could visualize a tainted future of mine where people are labeling me as a PERVERT, DICKHEAD and what not. My mind was not working. I was scared to death. This was a big and a new problem, (at least at that moment) because I have never faced anything like that before.
I went to my friend who created the account, asked him my email and password and how to use it. He explained everything and I was good to go.
I went back home, the first thing I did was turning on my computer to check whether he has hacked or not. He didn't and I felt relieved, but I looked at the clock, and it was just 30 - 40 minutes since we left from school, he definitely has more important work to do, rather than just come home and hack my account.
For the whole day, I anxiously monitored my account, waiting for him to act on his threat. But he never did!
Not because he didn't had time to, just because he didn't knew how to.
When confronted the next day, he just laughed. The same set of girls were present . He said he felt pity for me, and I stood there speechless, the girls present there started appreciating his kind gesture and told me to back off , that I better play safe and not mess with him and go mind my studies. I became subject of mockery for weeks.
His words and the public humiliation pierced right through my heart and it ignited a fire somewhere inside me. My determination levels were touching the sky and I was very much driven. I initially wanted to learn not for myself, not to grow, but for pure revenge. I wanted to prove him wrong, and I didn’t realize that just by proving him wrong, I would be proving myself right. Somewhere along the way, I created a successful platform for myself.
Life wasn't the same after the insult. It changed. It took a 360° turn for good.
Although the journey wasn't as pleasant as the destination but it was fun and a thrilling experience.
I experienced a complete different aspect of my life, which I never thought I would - getting off my comfort zone.
I will not lie, it was not easy, not even one bit. I had to struggle, struggle a lot, because I was just a teenager who was going to school, had a family to answer to and I didn't know what I was entering into.
After the insult, 11 year old me went back home with full energy and determination level touching the roof.
The first thing I did after going home was turning on my computer and did some quick and basic searches till evening and made a list of all the websites I visited.
I then completed my homework, had my dinner. My family runs a medical shop and the office is connected to the house (i.e.) ground floor - the office and floors above was our home. The computer was in the shop and I couldn't use much during working hours. My shop closes at 9-10 PM and that's when my journey starts.
After the shop closed and people went upstairs, I went down, turned on my computer and was browsing website after website but Facebook caught my attention.
The concept of Facebook intrigued me and I loved it and I was in awe of it. I was curious about how it works because it was something amazing - connecting with strangers, with friends, real time chat, man I was just in love with it. I wanted to build one too. I started searching terms like 'how to make Facebook' :p and the search showed that you need to learn programming, I was like what's that? and when I searched that I got to know that it is just like any other languages like English or Hindi which humans understand and similarly programming languages are languages which computers understand and through which you could create marvelous things. (I thought there might be only few but when I searched I was surprised) I then got to know that Facebook was built in PHP (a programming language) and I wanted to learn that.
I was awake till 4 in the morning, very curious, penning down everything I was doing. I couldn't get enough. I thought to stop and go back up and pretend to sleep, so my family doesn't come to know about it. I went and slept as if nothing happened. My mom woke me up at 7 am, because I had school to attend. Damn.
Well, this was pretty much my routine - wake up at 7 am, get ready for school, come back home at around 3-4 PM, rest, complete my homework, have dinner and start my learning process at 10-11 PM and go back to sleep at 3-4 AM. This routine was continued for two long years and I lost a lot of things in process - weight, friends, grades and I gained a few things too - humiliation, learning something (which was not academic), a better me.
I will brief you with some points so that you understand MY LIFE POST THE INSULT well.
My English was pathetic. My vocabulary was terrible. I didn't even know the meaning of the word flop.
I wanted to improve my English and my late uncle Mohan helped me indirectly to improve my English. He wanted me to become a bodybuilder and a fighter for which he used to train me and make me watch Hollywood movies (that was my first exposure to Hollywood). I hated it because I never watched Hollywood and it was boring. He made me watch 'Jackie Chan" and 'Bruce Lee' movies and I was least interested in it, but I couldn't get up since he was sitting next to me. I used to waste 2 hours everyday in doing nothing and that's when I thought why not to utilize the time in learning English.
I started reading the subtitles carefully and whenever I encountered any new or difficult word, I used to write it down and later look up in dictionary and tried to add those words in my vocabulary. When my uncle asked ‘what I was writing’, I said ‘some action scenes which will help me later’ and he bought it. I started watching more Hollywood movies with full heart and observed carefully on how these actor speak, pronounce, their body language, everything. I was excited everyday to watch a new movie with my uncle and he was surprised.
I once read a dictionary for fun. I did it because I challenged myself and Fun fact - I hardly remember any words.
I started reading English newspapers, I started reading English books and noted down new words or words which I didn't know meaning of and then looked up in dictionary and tried to incorporate in my vocabulary.
I started practicing whatever I have learnt. I started talking with myself in front of mirror to understand my body language. I also used to record myself to hear how I sound and learnt and improved every single day.
I started speaking English with a few friends of mine. I told them beforehand that I want to improve my English and they were super happy to help.
And lastly I did not give up. I went on and on every single day and I am still learning, have not mastered yet.
And that my friends was my journey. It looks so easy in texts but it wasn't so in reality. There are lot of things which I experienced but I couldn't express it in mere words.
I won't say my life right now is AWESOME but its GREAT.
Although I do have new set of problems and hurdles currently but that's what life is all about and what's fun without that? If you don't have problems or hurdles in your life then you are living a pretty boring 60 year old's life.
My life has tremendously improved in these 9 years. I learnt many things the hard way which has made me irrepressible.
I cherish each and every moment of my life and if given a chance I would relive it again with no regrets and would not want to change any part of my life because I learnt a lot of things from every aspect and situation of my life and I'd make the same mistakes again because that's what made me who I am today.
I am 20 years old (I am 2000 born, so adjust my age in the year which you are reading) I am a businessperson, writer, online marketer, trader, investor but not an entrepreneur. I am a college dropout and 2 time TEDx Speaker.
I am the Founder of Hackers Den, which is a technology blog which explains technology in simple English.
Also the Co-founder of BLENDnLend where I along with Ashi (Co-Founder) equip youngsters, entrepreneurs, working professionals and startup founders with new ways of career building.
I previously Co-founded a company known as Speak Out with my friend Soorya, it was a blogging event where we held offline events to share knowledge on blogging and digital marketing from the experts. The company got dissolved after the first edition due to some reasons.
I also founded Youths, (in 2017) which was a social networking website. I always had a dream to create a social networking site of my own because I was very much intrigued by the concept of Facebook, but the dream soon faded away as it was not practically viable and it was burning a hole in my pocket. I had to shut it down. We had 300 users before I shut it down. After this, I left programming and have never programmed nor kept myself updated with it and eventually lost touch to it.
I have worked with several startups and running many online blogs, online businesses and ventures and making a living out of it.
I run a YouTube channel with the name Abishiekh Jain
I have been featured on various online and offline reputed media publications like The Huffington Post, Deccan Chronicle, Entrepreneur etc. I have been featured on newspapers as well as offline magazines too.
I am a writer and I write on topics such as Entrepreneurship, Self Help, Personal Development, Optimism , Positivism, Business etc.
I am a speaker too and have spoken at various colleges, universities, schools and events. I am a 2 time TEDx speaker. You can book me for speaking at your college/event too :)
I have a neat username with no fancy words in it, all you have to do is type my spelling right and you will find me anywhere. My Spelling is 'Abishiekh Jain' (without quotes) and you can find me anywhere by searching with the right spelling.
My life tremendously changed after the insult.